Sunday, February 01, 2009

Sensitivity Paddlings

I really don't care for the let-me-tell-you-how-it's-done narrative, but bear with me for a moment or two till I can get to the fun stuff... (or, "butt bare with me," in spanko-speak):

in reference to the lovely Cowgirl, of a just-prior post, for whom we all are very happy and who was overheard using unsightly language by her new beau... (how can language be "unsightly?" if you're not watching it!) Possibly this was because she didn't fear the consequences, a terrible but I think largely understandable and unfortunately common state. For those child-free weekends and other spank-heavy intervals, sensitivity paddlings seem to improve this situation - plus are a lot of fun.

What we want here is not for our young lady to brat around, nor repeatedly ask for yet another spanking, nor be completely unrestrained in her behavior just because she wants to take advantage of this opportunity to be spanked well and often. I think it's much more fun if her own reaction to careless misbehavior is "ut oh..." Not to say that I want her all tense, nervous, and ever vigilant, carefully avoiding any slight misstep - this should be a time for relaxing - the point is not for her to studiously avoid minor misbehavior, only to forsake intentional brattiness and to react with that tummy-tightening trepidation to any realized-too-late actions. Two dozen swats once an hour seems to fit the bill.

This heightened-awareness state could happen if she was already over-spanked, but with a whole weekend - or even a long evening - to play with we certainly don't want to get there too soon; and with a dedicated spankee, as we all know, it can be difficult or impossible to get there at all, at least for any sustained length of time. Seems like "no no no stop" is usually followed by "okay, ready..." We need her confident that plenty of spankings remain, preferably pleasurable or at most minorly challenging ones - or, even if she's due for some heavy discipline, that she'll be kept plenty busy in the meantime.


I have this heavy paddle, frat-shaped but shorter, quite thick but thankfully made of pine or something so it's less fierce than most hardwoods. Its sting is further mitigated by a very thin suede layer on one side - maybe less than an eighth of an inch thick but enough to make all the difference. Twenty-four swats is neither too much to take nor too little to have any effect, and can be barely disruptive. We've used this in a very brief stop at a rest area in the middle of a two-hour drive and it was completely convenient, and it can be applied just before leaving the house without disrupting any timetables.

This isn't exactly preventative - if she needs preventative spankings, say before joining friends, visiting family, or whatever, those would need to be separate; nor is it maintenance, exactly, which I consider to be considerably longer and far less frequent, like maybe twice a week; and it's definitely not punitive - it's not substantial enough to address anything specific and hopefully no one needs to be punished every hour. Its purpose is entirely sensitivity and assurance - sensitivity so that other spankings can be felt better, and assurance that even without misbehavior, encouragement, or requests, opportunities won't be wasted.

Starting off it may take a little more to establish any sensitivity at all, and it would be silly to wait half the night for it to start being effective just so that a foolish consistency can be followed, so the first time around I might go through it twice. In fact, on a cold bottom it's nicest to start out slowly, so the first two dozen are probably light, and then a second two dozen for effect, and then maybe this is repeated. Certainly at two dozen swats if it's doubled is not a big deal. Even the second set - and the fourth, in this case - the firm ones - are pretty enjoyable if you're not already sore (and why would you be?) - solid but not stinging, warm, not hot... also, an extra set at the first half-hour will speed up the process, too.

My preference is to give eighteen with the suede side then six with the bare-wood side, which is, admittedly, painful (though there's not many of them); keeping them all low, with the lower edge of the paddle just at the lowest edge of the bottom, every swat, same spot, all weekend or week. If you tend to over-hit (land more on the far side) you can balance it out immediately with a Jokari paddle or wait until next time and use the diaper position, so that the far cheek becomes the left rather than right. I'm not ambidextrous enough to use a heavy paddle well from the left, nor strong enough to do it well back-handed. It's not that much of a problem, since the paddle is very stiff and therefore doesn't over-hit as much as thinner or perforated paddles.

For these quick little swat sets, simply bent over can be best - well over, to get low, easily - even if an over-the-knee spanking is about to follow. Lately I've also been favoring a punishment position - kneeling nude on the bed, elbows down and then drawn in to bring the chin to the hands, heels together, knees apart - though this is a bit elaborate if you're just keeping to the schedule. Maybe without the nudity, if you're in a skirt/ dress/ nightgown...

Some interesting things come out of this schedule... like, obviously, a paddling very first thing in the morning (doesn't have to be hard), before any other spankings... and the fact that it's hard to leave the house or do much of anything besides watch a TV show for less than an hour, so that every time you return to the house, a paddling - often two or three - is already overdue, so her bottom is bare immediately, and you get rid of that lag between getting home and getting back into the spanking routine. Another situation is that, since a paddle this size gives you a pretty good range of heaviness, once she's well-warmed up you can really power on some deeply-felt swats if you feel that's needed and, as I said earlier, add a second set, since they're short...

Also, the schedule is very hard to keep up with - once an hour is pretty aggressive - so a paddling is almost always due and can precede nearly anything - or I should say, nearly everything. Time for a caning? Should probably have some good heavy swats first. Need a strapping? Let's make sure you feel it low. Smart-mouthed remark? We'll just catch up with the paddle before you go over my knee...

I've considered - but haven't tried - using a kitchen timer... for a strict once-an-hour I guess we'd reset it for another hour, then paddle, so we don't get "schedule creep..." My timer has a warning beep (how appropriate) at ten minutes till and five minutes till, so we wouldn't be taken by surprise - but I don't think that would be very relaxing, to say the least.

Don't get me wrong, I've got nothing against those grit-your-teeth, thigh-shaking paddlings - but a steady dose of something much more tolerable can be a useful addition as well.

3 comments:

Jay Walker said...

Bloody hell!!! Remind me never to let any of my future bf's/Dom's read this.
Only kidding. Very usefull indeed.
Hugs, Jay

Anonymous said...

This really makes me want to run with scissors, jay walk, stay up late, sit close to the TV....everything naughty I can think of. I want that paddle, where can I find one?

Kass

Anonymous said...

Kass? Are you going to SL? If so, I will try to liberate it from him for you...it bloody well hurts!
(not signing my name for obvious reasons)