Well, I'm no expert, that's for sure, but I know how to give a very enjoyable caning, and would be glad to hear from others who have suggestions. First of all, this is a caning to enjoy, not to fear, so it all depends on what you want. We have two canes, a medium and a thin. Both of them work best if you kind of "wave" them so that they flex on their own. That gives a fast, sharp little tap. The medium has a deeper feel and is more difficult to get swaying on its own. The thin one is easy and is all surface sting but can sting a lot. Men should start with the medium (as a caner) and women the thin unless you have very strong wrists.
If you're starting out I'd suggest lying flat on the bed - it's a lot more tolerable. If this isn't enough, you can put a pillow under your hips. Sometime if you want it worse you can be on your knees which'll tighten your bottom, or stand and grab the seat of a chair with your knees straight (maybe legs slanted slightly forward), and then it gets harder as you bend farther, putting your elbows on the chair or grabbing behind your knees or grabbing your ankles. Except that you have to be over 18 and no one over 18 can actually grab their ankles, but it sounds scary, doesn't it?
So you're lying flat, let's say, and your considerate spanker is flicking this cane. After a few vicious cuts through the air to get your adrenaline going, he holds it just off of your bottom and snaps it lightly so it smacks you. You'd better let him know how much sting you're feeling because it seems like, from his end, that he's doing it way too lightly. Ideally, he holds his hand right where the cane will come down just on the near cheek and then whip forward onto the far cheek. Otherwise the far cheek has all the fun. Yes, it takes some practice and communication, if you can both overcome the embarrassment of the bottom giving that much feedback.
He should smack you in this very stingy way maybe 100 times or maybe twice that so your bottom has a good (intense) overall sting. Then what I like to do would be something like "twenty by twenty," where he gives you twenty sharp little strokes. After that, he brings his wrist back - his arm doesn't have to move - and gives you one good hard quick smack. It will seem like just a good little flick to him but on your end it'll be like a bolt of lightning! Meanwhile, he goes back to the little strokes. I'm told this works best if the new little strokes are away from the bigger stroke because otherwise they take the sting out of the bigger stroke. As the name implies, this repeats 20 times - or whatever you want, of course.
As far as placement, of course sensitivity is distributed about the same as everything else, with the medium-low part of the bottom being able to enjoy the most of it. But if you're doing it right, you can use it all over. I would keep the hard strokes away from the back of the knees by about four inches on top and a couple on bottom and probably a good eight inches above the heels. On the back avoid hard strokes on the area between the ribs and the top of the hips.
For this type of caning I like to hold the cane with my thumb on top so that it flexes over the end of my thumb. "Proper" grip for serious correction is probably completely different and I think can be seen at the SixOvTheBest website. The whole process is very tiring on the wrist so you may want to have sessions get longer with practice.
You'll probably like the light strokes so well you'll want to get them on the front, too. If you lie on your back I'd keep even the light strokes above the knee and below the throat. If you're nervous at first you can wear a bra - thin fabric doesn't seem like it'd be much protection but we all know that's an "old wives tale."
Please try this and post how it worked out - with photos and vid clips if possible. That way if you're making any serious mistakes we can help you correct them!
